I've requested a girl.
I want several children and really want to mother a daughter at least once. My Mum said that 'every mother deserves a daughter' - she only had me so she was biased. But that makes me want a daughter even more. Strangely my favourites in class (I'm a teacher) are always boys!
I have chosen a boy's name (easily) and have a shortlist of girl's names. I have bought lots of clothes - all for a girl. My closest friends and family all have girls (with only 1 boy and he has a sister). I can't bring myself to decorate a nursery pink, just in case. But I have made 2 baby blankets in pink - if it's a boy he's going to know he was very wanted but a bit of a surprise too!
I think (and hope) that China will refer me a daughter. But if they refer me a son I will be disappointed for a moment and then exceedingly happy and privileged. The Chinese put a very high value on their sons - I would be extremely privileged to be referred one.
Many people say you don't get to choose when you conceive so why should you when you adopt - my response is that that is one of the privileges of adopting.
It's a very personal choice but if I was referred a boy I would feel wrong to reject referral on the basis of gender. I would not judge anyone for a different decision - our experiences are all different, this is just my opinion and my situation.
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